Research from the University Arizona found that having sex with a former lover may actually be good for recently separated adults who were still not over their relationship.
First appearing in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology in May 2012, the study looked at 137 men and women who reported recent marital separations.
In general, people who were still attached to their ex were less “psychologically adjusted” than those who had accepted the split, according to the study.
A post-marriage bedroom jaunt among people who still longed for ex-lover resulted in “significantly better adjustment” compared to those who were not having sex with their ex, the study notes. “We found that, for people who are still pining after their ex-partners, sexual contact is correlated with less psychological distress,” lead author Ashley Mason told us in an email.
Does that mean we should all jump back into bed with a former flame?
The researchers only looked at distress relatively shortly after the separation, says Mason, meaning sleeping with an ex may only lower short-term distress by providing immediate comfort. This routine could prevent someone from “moving on” or “other adjustment processes that are more important for long-term well-being,” she cautions.
What do you think…sex with an ex a good look?